Happiness is right in your hands
The world is changing in many ways and we are developing profoundly in all division except for the life we “Humans” have. In order to survive, we are fleeing away from danger and getting adopted to situation that we never wanted to. All of our finding, growth and blooming ideas are only here to make our lifestyle smarter not the life that we are supposed to. Let us dig deep more about it below.
Uninvested Happiness
There are more short term entertaining medium in our reality (movies, theme parks, beach and so on) which ultimately results in reducing our stress. It’s happy when some people who could really feel the difference, while the rest are being pushed back to the old state of mind. So what’s causing this problem? The word “Temporary” is behind all this.
As we all know Nothing is permanent — happiness, sadness, emotions, joy, weeping, smiling etc. Consider the case of being sad for a while. Everyone in this situation either wish the sadness fades away on its own or they take their chances to move away from it. This scenario happens more often and increases with our responsibilities. So what’s the root cause of this? — It’s the sadness that we are allowing to conquer our mind (which in long term represent our life). As I said earlier, moving away or adopting is just temporary and it has to be done for every new problem that happens in your life. Eventually we will be searching for some temporary solution that drives us away from our problem.
The most prominent thing to do here is to overcome the event where we get attached to those bad vibes deep in our mind. Ignoring the problem, trying to avoid those situation, replacing something better over it, these are some of the few ideas one picks up to overcome. But all these requires some constant investment and resource to achieve. You need distraction (resource), some time (investment) to avoid the event. When one doesn’t gets all these in an ideal timing, he will be pushed back into the event deep in his mind. Here the resource and investment are temporary. For example, you may be in office working, and all of a sudden a problem strikes you. At that present, you may be searching deliberately for some distraction and time to get yourselves involved in those action. But all you end up is working in front of your laptop seeing the sad reflection of your face. In this point you can’t do anything else, except deepening yourself in you own thoughts.
So what’s the solution? — Obviously “Distraction” is the solution, but not in the way that I said earlier. Distraction can be obtained in many ways, from your friends, a movie, a sport and many more. But all these temporary. What is permanent is YOU. You should find happiness in yourself. Unfortunately most people don’t have the right mindset to attain it. You may be sitting in your couch where your problem is circulating your mind and your friend is busy on his/her work and no new movies that you are excited to watch. In this point you don’t have any resource to make you feel distracted and at one point you will run out of your distractions that made you comfortable before. All you have at that point is you. If you can be happy on your own, you can come out of the problem on your own. In this point you become your own distraction.
How can you make yourself happy? — It can be done by being happy with what you have at present. This doesn’t relate anything directly with overcoming problems that we face everyday. At the same time being happy on your own can make you love your life more than anything and you start prioritising your own happiness and ultimately you will start looking at your problems much smaller that what it used to be. This will help you overcome problem even when you are alone. Enjoying the little things that we have is the key to love yourself. When you do so it will never allow us to feel discouraged or bad about yourself. For example, not having some luxurious life style that others may possess.
Let me narrate a short incident that I came across in my life. I don’t wanna elaborate things in details. Let me cut it short for you. I saw a man and his friend in a sight seeing spot where he asked his friend to picture him. She picked her iPhone to capture him. All of a sudden the man interrupted and handed her over his mediocre ranged phone insisting her to shot him using it. He even ignored when she insisted that her phone can produce better quality image than his one. At that point I realised that key to be happy with yourself is to feel completely satisfied with what you have in present, which can be attained by avoiding temporary things (His friends iPhone) that you may get to use in your life. Involving too much of ourselves in temporary event that we come through may make ourselves dependent on other things that we actually don’t possess.
This explains that you don’t need to invest anything to make you happy. The best thing you have in your life to make you happy is you. Having your friends near you may help you recover faster but there will be situation where you are the only one left in the list of people who can save you from your problem. At that point this idea helps you gain control on your life and happiness which results in overcoming the situation on your own.
Conclusion
Investing your happiness on temporary things is good, on the other hand being prepared to tackle your own problem when everything falls off is mandatory. The basic idea is a hierarchy where you should avoid temporary things in your life which makes you feel happy with what you have and you automatically start prioritising your life and your happiness, which further results in looking your problem in a small scale than what it actually is. The investment free form of happiness can be obtained from you. I shared my thoughts on achieving it. So love yourself and lead a happy life.
